How I went from simply existing in life to truly loving it.

You are reading this because the title drew you in, are you searching for more to life? Are you asking yourself 'is this it?' Do you feel like your life is hard work and repetitive, like one of those hamsters running in a wheel, trapped in a cage?

This was how I used to feel.

The above photo is the epitome of happiness.

I am now, but it has been one enlightening journey to achieve this true lasting fulfilment, I feel energised, and I have evolved into who I always wanted to be, but thought I would never be. I am the survivor (or how I like to say a thriver) of all forms of abuse, mostly from my alcoholic parents; the daughter of a mother who took her own life; neglected and left to be feral; I was eventually placed into foster care which at the time felt like the end of the world, dramatic... I was 14! It turned out as a really positive experience for me as my foster parents are truly awesome beings!

Before having my family, things were very dark for me and I honestly thought I would be doing everyone a favour if I checked out of planet Earth. I made several attempts to end my life, thankfully, unsuccessfully.

Having my children gave me an opportunity to be the mum I always wanted, my mum taught me how not to be, thanks Mum. I went on a mission to be the best I could be, a whole other story.

Once I accepted my out was blocked, I had to look at other options, this lead me to become passionate about facilitating others to become the version of themselves that they want to be, I don't want anyone to feel the way I did. I was shut down, merely existing in life, full of self-hatred, riddled with self-doubt and consumed with thoughts of not being worthy enough for anything. I wished I could curl up and dissolve into the ground. I honestly thought this was the way I was going to feel like forever! That no-one would ever love me as I had such a toxic relationship with myself, I told myself life was hard work and felt exhausted. I found ways to suppress my negative emotions with unhelpful coping mechanisms, but unfortunately this shut the positive emotions out as well, a bottle of red wine plus would generally do the trick, temporarily. I now choose to be alcohol free, it is the best thing I ever did for me.

I desperately wanted to feel happier, to have more energy and to feel fulfilled but I didn't know where to start. I had some counselling to help me get over my traumatic childhood and deep-rooted self-sabotage in the past. I did not want to go to counselling again, so I came across coaching. This enabled me to look forward and to get to know myself, all of me. I was able to make peace with the past, and it helped me develop a healthy coping mechanism to cope in life, learning I was enough and how to have a better relationship with myself.

I was hooked and fascinated, and I really wanted to be able to share with others how they can become their best selves and to show people there is another way to evolve, grow energised and be empowered. My company Rural Connections was born. I am an Empowerment Coach, and in my practice, I incorporate NLP, (Neuro Linguistics Programming-in simple terms the language of the mind) Also mBIT which is Multi Brain Integration Facilitating We work on activating and aligning your three brains your head; heart and gut. Enabling you to become mindful of your gut, for maximum immunity and happiness levels, your heart for matters of the heart and the brain which often is like an overpowering drama queen!

This will enable you to step into your positive mindset with emotional intelligence. As I believe you need to work with the body and mind to get a lasting result. I work from home in a purpose-built cabin on my farm, set in a secluded rural area, with plenty of outdoor space and all over the world via the internet, so location is not an issue.

Depending on the individual client's needs we work on rewiring your mind and beliefs ,and work on you implementing the lasting changes you want. I share tools and techniques you can use in life to stay the version of you that you want, even in the ups and downs of life, by changing your perception to gain resilience you will feel you are in control of all of you.

I love the transformation from when people first come to me and throughout the session visibly seeing them grow in confidence and become the version of themselves they want to be. I love sharing the wins and being on hand for the challenging times because let’s face it, life up and downs are still going to happen, this is the real test of my sharings and how they have embodied it, see my reviews.